Love vs. Fear: The Hidden Architecture of Your Emotional World

It is true that all emotions can ultimately be grouped into one of two: Love or Fear

Joy, bliss, contentment, excitement, generosity, confidence and all other seemingly positive emotions fall into the Love category while anger, resentment, sadness, disappointment, heartbreak, despair and all seemingly negative emotions all fit into the category of Fear.

When you're feeling good, you're loving something and when you're feeling bad, you're fearing something.

This is great to know, but not entirely useful in day to day life.

Although there is a lot of talk about choosing your feeling state in spiritual circles and law of attraction groups we cannot actually control our emotions.

Emotions are manifest... that means that they are already present in our experience. We are aware of them and can feel them because they are already here/now. Trying to change an emotion when it is already here/now is about as easy as turning water into wine or base metals into gold... its' not impossible if you're Jesus or an alchemist, but most of us aren't entirely there yet.

By trying to change emotions which are already manifest we create resistance, ultimately creating more negative emotions.

Because 'negative' emotions are painful our programming is to automatically run from them. We believe somehow that feeling them can hurt us. Our flight or flight instinct kicks in and we create strategies to save ourselves from the fear. We take action to try to combat or run from the feeling; like distracting ourselves with something we enjoy, or analyzing the feeling to find its root-cause. We will do almost everything to get away from fully feeling the raw emotion.

When we have a goal of eliminating the emotion and take action towards that goal we become invested in the outcome of our actions, in this case, eliminating the feeling. There is no guarantee that our chosen strategy will save us from the negative emotion and so we are subtly adding more fear to the equation.

More fear = More negative emotions

In a state of love one would automatically accept the emotion as a part of creation and would not try to change it in any way. We would sit with the emotion and just let it be. All of the strategies are actually creating a dependence loop on the actual root cause of the negative emotion: Fear.

It is almost impossible to escape from the fear loop from the same space in which it was created.

In a manifest fear state, love emotions are hard to access because they do not hold the same vibration naturally as the fear emotions - this is why it takes some time to get out of a bad mood or to 'cool down' from a triggering episode.

To override the here/now vibration of fear-based emotions one needs to do a bit of time travelling. We'll go back to the future.

But first I'll explain.

What is manifest in the here/now that we observe is actually the past. What we feel is the result of a huge collection of things that have already happened on subtler levels than those we can perceive physically. By the time you feel an emotion it has been in development in your grander system for some time. Your physical sense organs are receiving the very last stratum of infinite behind-the-scenes work that you are doing in creating your reality. Before an emotion can be felt, it has to be created in your mind in the form of thought and then body in the form of movements, hormones, bodily reactions and tension etc. We're not normally aware of the creation phases of emotional states and how long before we feel a feeling it's been in the pipeline... but we can be.

If you think of your whole being as a house under construction, the manifest level is the end-product... It's already decorated and you have moved into the space. Before that is the building phase... parts are manufactured in factories and the builders assemble them on site. Its a long and labor intensive process but everyone is working to a plan. Once you've already moved into a new home or even during construction it becomes extremely hard and costly to make any major changes.

The best way to build your ideal home is to go to the source of the creation; the architect.

If we understand that the emotion we feel now is actually a product of the past, the same way the home we live in now is a product of the designs of the architect months ago we can play a part in choosing our future emotional state. If we can set up a meeting with the architect now about their future plans for us we can help to design the future without creating resistance and investment in outcome - because the outcome is already drawn into the plans. There's no need to worry about how things 'will be' because we know that we had conscious input into the design and that of course the builders are going to follow the plan.

To do this we must consciously 'step up' a few levels in awareness to a 'space' where fear-based emotions don't vibrate: intention.

Intention is the non-action based balance of will and faith.

You, on a manifest level are constantly in the space of being the equivalent of a client to your HigherSelf, which is like the architect for the building project. When you begin to live your life guided by intention it is like having instant-messenger open with the HigherSelf at all times. When you see things that you dislike in your current manifest reality you can pop off a message to the HigherSelf about the changes you would like included in future projects. It won't change what you're currently experiencing, but it will change what you experience in the future.

For example: Your friend says they will meet you at a certain time and place, but they don't. You try to reach them but their phone is off. They finally meet up with you 4o minutes late and don't apologize, excuse themselves or seem to care about the inconvenience it caused you. This seems to create anger and sadness in you.

You could try to change the situation by confronting the friend or going home or you could have a quick chat with your HigherSelf about what isn't working for you

With your will you explain the changes you would like to see in your relational field moving forward. And with faith, you trust that your HigherSelf receives the message — no pressure, no control, no expectation — simply clarity.

☝️ This is the key:

✨ Intend the future.🌱 Accept the present.💗 Feel what’s here without trying to fix it.

When you stop trying to escape a negative emotion, it stops escalating. When you allow it — breathe into it, witness it — it completes its cycle and dissolves naturally. You return to neutrality. And from neutrality, you can access love again.

This is how you get out of the fear loop.Not by fighting fear — but by rising above its frequency.

When you live from intention, you step into the architect’s office and reshape what’s coming next. You begin designing a reality where love becomes your baseline — not fear.

Because love isn’t just a feeling. It’s a direction. A choice. A home you build in advance.

🪽 Your HigherSelf is always listening. All you need to do is speak clearly, and trust the plan.

So what do you do the next time fear-based emotions arise?

Try this 4-step shift:

1. Name what’s happening “I am feeling fear/sadness/anger right now.”(No story. No blame. Just awareness.)

2. Welcome the emotion to be fully felt Place a hand on your chest or belly and breathe.“Thank you for showing me what matters.”

3. Release the need to change the now No strategies. No escape. Presence is power.

4. Intend what you want next Tell your HigherSelf: “More respect, more ease, more love in my relationships, please.”

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You have now stepped into creation rather than reaction. You have shifted from fear → love. You have returned to sovereignty.

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❤️ Your emotions are not your enemy.

🛡️ You don’t have to run from fear.

🌟 You are already the architect of your future.

Come back to love — again and again —because it is always where you truly live.