Living as extraordinary - Think you are ordinary? Think again…
- Jessie Herman
- Sep 22
- 5 min read
How to begin living as the extraordinary being you are and using the nature of every authentic moment as a guide for others
There’s a dangerous habit I’ve noticed we humans have: we call things “ordinary” and, by doing so, we quietly shrink the miracle that’s happening in front of our noses.
I heard this truth in a recent Vagrein transmission which I've shared on my YouTube and it landed inside me like a 747: nothing you live is ordinary.
Every moment you notice, feel, remember or speak is a one-time, never-before-seen event. The truth is we are living as extraordinary beings in a extraordinary existence.
Can you imagine really living from that knowing? Everything changes! Your work, your relationships, your nervous system, your marketing, your entire sense of meaning. Everything.
I'm writing this as someone who’s walked multiple identities (mom, artist, corporate 9-5er and now channel, coach and healer), and who shows up every day to help people shift to them selves... this perspective modifies the practical stuff, especially for healers, therapists, coaches and lightworkers, and I want to share some concrete practices I use (and teach) so you can embody it too.
Why “ordinary” is a spiritual bypass
Saying something is ordinary is often a way to avoid the discomfort of awe. If I call your grief or your joy “ordinary,” I avoid the trembling complexity of it. If I label a synchronicity a “coincidence,” I deny the invitation that moment is offering.
The transmission reminded me: the All That Is renders each now perfectly. That hair that tickles your nose? It is precisely timed. That awkward conversation? It was arranged to teach something you need to learn.
This isn’t mystical one-upmanship. It’s a practical reorientation. When you stop inflating certain moments into “too important” and you also stop flattening everything into “nothing special,” you find a balanced humility: everything matters, and nothing is the only thing that matters. That frees you from carrying false pressure while giving you access to clarity and presence.
The teaching edge: authenticity is a magnet
If you work with people, here’s the golden practical advice Vagrein gives us again and again: authenticity attracts the people who are meant for you.
Not louder marketing. Not aggressive persuasion.
Your specific way of being, your voice, your rituals, your humor, your soft edges, will draw in those who are ready to receive what you teach. (... and all the best kinds of relationships, by the way)
This is why I say: always show up as YOU.
When I’m in my day to day, not just during sessions but in the little spare pockets of life, I am learning and then sculpting the voice and the frequency that reaches others.
Laughing, failing, dancing badly, crying, cooking (quite well actually thank you), writing mediocrely, speleling badly: all of it magnetizes the very beings who need me. (I see you boo)
So if you feel like “nobody gets it,” that’s not a failure. It’s feedback: the people who need you are out there, but you haven’t welcomed them with the full version of yourself yet.
It’s time. Time to step into your full blown blossoming magnificence (and if those words are triggering something, great! Be with it!)
Resistance is a mirror, not a stop sign
I get asked all the time how to “reach” those who are resistant to spiritual ideas.
Vagrein’s transmission gave an elegant answer: resistance you meet from others is always a reflection of area you have resistence to yourself within yourself... and then an invitation to come to more self-acceptance.
Do you push? Do you perform? Or do you live by example? Do you live in your calm, openness, consistency, confidence… in an ease and authenticity with nothing to prove? What invites safe releasing of resistance? (To other selves and self?)
Resistance usually masks fear: fear of judgment, fear of abandonment, fear of being labeled “crazy.”
This is why we don’t win people over by arguing with them. They are right from their perspective. And when you acknowledge this you invite yourself and them to shift to another, new perspective. That sweet calm smile of the Buddha says more than any words ever could.
We win them by demonstrating safety: showing that radical presence and joy are possible and not a threat. When you embody the presence of who you truly are, when you are steady in yourself and curious about what they see rather than defensive, people are far more likely to relax and listen.
Practical practices: small things that can change everything
Try one of these each day for a week and notice how your life feels different — these micro-practices create macro shifts. They’re designed to help you live out the truth that nothing is ordinary:
Micro-presence (3 minutes, 3x/day)
Pause. Notice breath. Name three sensory details (sound, texture, scent). Say silently: “This is a one-time Now.” It rewires the mind to treat now as precious.
“Voice Check” exercise (before outreach or a session)
Ask: “Am I speaking from proof, from performance, or from presence?” Choose presence. If you’re performing, pause and reconnect with a breath.
Embodying Joy list
Keep a running list of 10 tiny joyful things (coffee warmth, a silly song, a patch of sun). Do one each day. Joy isn’t frivolous it’s medicine that raises your field. (And really why we are here.)
Teaching from the edge of your own readiness
A beautiful, humbling instruction: when you hesitate about how far to go in your teachings/sharing, ask whether the hesitation is about their readiness or your readiness? Chances are, if you share the fullest version of yourself you will meet the edges in both of you.
Because usually, the unwillingness to express fully isn't theirs, it’s yours. Compassion for yourself, not perfection, is the doorway to braver, clearer sharing.
We cannot force transformation. We can, however, embody it so intensely that it becomes a living example. Our courage to be ourselves is the only excuse the right people need.
An invitation
Let this message and the miracle of this now be permission to pivot: lean into your oddities, your soft edges, your unmarketable jokes, your messy mornings. Those are the things that tune you to your people. Share them. Show yourself.
And if you’re someone hungry to remember the extraordinary in the ordinary, start small. Notice. Name. Be gentle with yourself when it becomes overwhelming (and it may). The world you see is a mirror of your gaze: change the gaze, and the world begins to rearrange. (Believe it to see it, not the other way around)
If you want tools to embody this more deeply, I offer my own extrordinary form of authentic coaching. We start out centering YOU and running through your Human Design Chart.... that way you can see just how extraordinary you are.
You can book a human design reading only or dive deeper with 3 or 6 session packages that will truly unlock your gifts.
I also share many guided practices, short EFT tapping scripts, and a regular check in via the Vagrein Cafe via my membership. It is now available on a monthly basis for 33 euros and you can try it out for a whole week absolutely for free!
Follow me on YouTube, Instagram, and tune into the Some Kind of Mystic podcast for more teachings and conversations.
If this message touched you, share it with a friend who needs to be reminded of their own extraordinary nature.
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