Stay Bright When Others Dim: Embrace Your Light

We often discuss raising our vibration, holding our light, and staying bright. But what happens when your light, the very essence you've nurtured for years, starts to make others uncomfortable? Trust me, it will happen.

So, how do you stay bright when others dim? This is a significant question! Perhaps a friend drifts away without explanation. Maybe a family member shuts down when you share something exciting. You might even sense that being fully yourself feels “too much” for the room.

This experience is common for everyone who grows. It’s not a sign that you’ve done something wrong. Instead, it’s proof that you are radiating.

Read on to discover my best tips for navigating this situation, drawn from personal experience and experimentation with what truly works.

1. Stop Trying to Dim the Bulb

When someone pulls back, the instinct is often to shrink. “Maybe I shared too much.” “Should I tone it down?” But here’s the truth: your light doesn’t apologize for shining. When was the last time the sun dimmed to avoid making you uncomfortable? Shining is simply shining.

Don’t confuse accepting a lesser version of yourself with accepting your true gifts. Every time you dim your light, you micromanage those around you. You display distrust—in yourself, in others, and in the divine cosmic dance we all partake in.

Pause and remind yourself: this is physics, not personal. When you raise your frequency, anything not resonating with it will adjust or move away. It’s energy reorganizing itself, not rejection.

So, don’t dim. Don’t chase. Just breathe and let the energy sort itself.

2. Practice Compassion Without Contortion

Compassion doesn’t mean folding yourself into shapes that fit others’ comfort zones. It’s about understanding that their reaction is their nervous system meeting your brightness. They are meant to be triggered if that’s what’s happening within them.

If someone needs distance, honor that without turning them into a villain. Maybe they’re not ready. Perhaps you’re not ready for them! If their best effort still doesn’t belong at your table, bless them and enjoy your dinner in peace.

3. Keep Your Channel Clear

The easiest way to distort your light is to let it bounce around in clutter—both energetic and physical.

That’s why I’m passionate about decluttering as energetic hygiene. Every object you release frees a piece of your attention. Every outdated thought you toss allows more of your frequency to flow.

Make it playful! Turn on music, set a timer for twenty minutes, and ask: “What in this space reflects the frequency I’m moving into—and what doesn’t?” Then let go of one thing that no longer resonates.

I’m no expert in Feng Shui, but I know that every time I let something go, the universe fills that space with something new meant for me.

Light travels better through open space.

In the Vagrein Membership, we often have group challenges and events. Recently, we focused on decluttering our spaces to make room for what’s coming in the next year.

You can join us here.

4. Speak Your Future Out Loud - Manifest NOW

Each morning, I record a three-minute voice note describing the life I’m already living six months from now. This trick bypasses the mind and speaks directly to the field.

Say it in your own words. Mumble if you need to. The power lies in spontaneity, not grammar.

Initially, it feels awkward—like you’re making it up (you are). Then something beautiful happens: your voice starts revealing what you truly want.

Since this practice is for you, it solidifies your light. Speaking your desires out loud allows your subconscious to actively consider your requests, guiding you toward evidence that it is already unfolding. Try it—ask for a Maserati and notice how many suddenly appear in your neighborhood.

Funny story: The only two cars I’ve ever included in my morning practice are a Tesla and a Maserati.

I envisioned them parked outside my house. Now, less than a year later, one of my neighbors owns a Tesla, and another has a Maserati.

We share a driveway.

So, each morning when I look out my door, what do I see? The only two cars I’ve ever envisioned are now parked right outside.

(Maybe I should have specified that I wanted to own/drive them?)

The more you speak it, the more your system—and the entire universe—aligns with that frequency.

5. Remember Humor Is Holy

When everything feels intense, as it has lately with spiritual awakenings, energetic shifts, geopolitical conflicts, and rising polarization, humor becomes your emergency exit.

A genuine laugh instantly resets your field. It’s how the body says, “We’re safe enough to see the bigger picture.”

Humor is the energy through which the universe perceives itself, so the highest light is often the funniest. I’ve been saved countless times from my own low vibration by cracking a joke or leaning into silliness.

Just the other day, I was in a bad mood, and my friend said, “You know how to fix that?” before skipping down the street. You can imagine how I started laughing at a grown man skipping through Milan.

Humor isn’t avoidance. It’s perspective in motion.

So, when you catch yourself spiraling, try a small chuckle and whisper: “Well, here we go again.” You’ll be amazed at how the energy softens.

The Practice

Here’s how to weave it all together this week:

1. Declutter one drawer or one belief.

2. Speak your next six months aloud for three minutes.

3. Laugh at least once at your own seriousness.

4. Let one interaction be what it is without chasing it.

   
   

That’s it. That’s how you stay bright.

Not by forcing positivity, but by creating enough space—inside and out—for your natural radiance to breathe.

Because your light isn’t meant to make others comfortable. It’s meant to remind them of their own.

✨ Want to practice this together? Join the Vagrein Membership (7-day free trial, then €33/month). You’ll gain access to the morning “Shifties” practice, live Vagrein cafés, transcripts, the Vagrein Library, and guided sessions that help you stay aligned even when life wobbles.