Free Will, Fierce Love, and What We’re Really Choosing

Several times a month, I host the Vagrein Café for members of the Vagrein Membership site. It's a live, heart-forward gathering where we sit together, share what’s alive in us, and receive clarity around so many of the topics Vagrein is sharing with us. It’s equal parts spiritual salon, coaching circle, and soul family reunion.

A few weeks ago the Café moved from sound frequencies to the pricklier territories of anger, sorrow, ideology, and the endlessly slippery idea of free will.

What came through wasn’t a checklist of notes but one clear message:

Life becomes lighter when you align with what’s true in you and let life move from there.

Free Will Isn’t What You Think It Is

Vagrein often reminds us: free will is simply the option to resist your inner guidance.

By that logic, we don't really have any choice at all at some point BUT to be ourselves do we?

When you stop resisting, choices don’t disappear exactly you just stop struggling. You just KNOW. Life flows. You still live your individuality, but with a kind of ease that feels almost inevitable.

I've lived as much as possible from this place for a while now and I can tell you the desire to resist oneself is always lurking... But the benefits of diving in and having faith that whatever created you is also what's guiding you moment to moment is a completely transformative way of being.

Anger is a Fire, Not a Failure

As a Manifestor, my “not-self” theme is anger. So I know this terrain.

Anger, used well, is information plus energy. 

It tells you: “Something here wants to be improved, and I have the power to do something about it.” It can forge, create, and purify.

Where we get into trouble is when anger is used to cover sorrow, or when hatred takes its place.

Hatred convinces us we’re righteous while quietly shaping us into the very thing we think we’re fighting. Yikes. If you look around at the world at the moment doesn't it seem to be those who are shouting the loudest that someone else is doing wrong who are also those who will bend the furthest from their own values and integrity to prove it?

Boundaries? Yes. Self-defense? Of course. But energetic obsession with enemies? That’s poison. Every enemy is simply another version of you.

There's zero new about any of this. I'm gonna pop a bible quote in here cause I like the imagery and it really conveys the point.

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” -Matthew 7:3–5

Just another reminder that its always an inside job... which leads us to:

Ideology vs. Integrity

One of our participants said it beautifully: “Intelligence ends where ideology begins.”

Ideology, here, isn’t about left vs. right, it’s any rigid framework that demands a permanent villain.

I actually even had a weird experience of this this week: In my son's group chat a mother was sharing her disappointment that she couldn't join a political rally. Another of the mothers consoled her: 'Don't worry. Luckily we will have many more occasions to fight for peace! You'll just join next time!'

And that is the case isn't it? As long as you're determined to fight you need someone or something to fight against. The overlooked element was the delight that they were experiencing. Only having a villain in a war allowed them the emotions they gained from believing they have to fight for peace.

Integrity asks simpler questions:

What is mine to do here, now?

How do I stay aligned with love in this actual moment?

Integrity might be boring. It often doesn't look like shouting in the street. It might be helping someone to cross it.

That’s where your power lives. That’s where reality listens.

A Shift in the Collective

There’s also something new moving in the field.

A musing from Vagrein: if humanity collectively renounces free will: either through stopping resistance to inner guidance or by violating the free will of others to such a critical mass that the rules can no longer apply, the “rules of engagement” with other civilizations may shift.

Does that mean that 3I/Atlas is indeed an Alien craft? Who knows cause free will and the law of confusion, at least at the time of writing this are in place but whether or not anything spectacular happens “out there,” the invitation “in here” remains the same: align, listen, respond, serve.

So what do you choose? Let me know in the comments as here there is lots of food for thought.

Practices That Support Alignment

Inside the Vagrein Membership, we play with simple, potent tools for staying clear and aligned, even when the world feels loud.

✨ Vagrein Café – live monthly conversations + Q&A with Vagrein and our community (with replays).

✨ Shifties Morning Practice – our WhatsApp circle where we share gratitude, script our day in past tense, and speak from our future selves.

✨ Workshops & Courses – access to teachings like past live events

✨ Members-only blogs & posts – I’m about to start sharing draft chapters from my upcoming Self-Love Odyssey Toolkit book.

And of course, you’ll also find guided meditations, EFT tapping, and practical coaching with me.

Try the Membership Free

The Vagrein Membership is open to everyone with a 7-day free trial. After that, it’s just €33/month. You’ll have instant access to everything above, plus a warm and open community of kind, curious seekers doing this work alongside you.

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A Gentle Challenge

For the next 24 hours, notice each time you say “I will.”

Pause.

Place a hand on your belly.

Let those words remind you of your inner power not to push life, but to align with it.